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Some Mid-Afternoon Gloss, Anyone (NSFW)

Wow, and hung, too!

Coach (NSFW)

For all you older daddy/younger boy types, here's a six-minute homage to coaches and their star athletes (although he's not that old and they're not the young).

So What If Being Gay Is A Choice: Frank Bruni Dismantles The Opposition

Frank Bruni, the New York Times opinion columnist who just happens to be gay, wrote a succinct, lucid rebuttal to the volumes of critics - mostly gay - who have been jaw-droppingly aghast by Cynthia Nixon's announcement last week - in that same paper of record - that her decision to leave her husband of umpteen years and move in with a woman to start a new family was completely by choice. (She later recanted by saying, begrudgingly, that she may have always been bisexual.)

The fear by many in the gay community is that by suggesting that being gay, or bisexual, is somehow a choice than we somehow will forfeit our rights and set the gay civil rights back decades.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

As Mr. Bruni points out, there is no religious gene and yet Religion has some of the most protected and cherished rights in this country:

"Our laws safeguard religious freedom, and that’s not because there’s a Presbyterian, Buddhist or Mormon gene. There’s only a tradition and theology that you elect or decline to follow. But this country has deemed worshiping in a way that feels consonant with who you are to be essential to a person’s humanity. So it’s protected."

But on a more basic forensic level, Mr. Bruni warns of pinning our hopes to what he calls "a moving target":

"By hinging a whole movement on a conclusion that hasn’t been — and perhaps won’t be — scientifically pinpointed and proved beyond all doubt, they hitch it to a moving target. The exact dynamics through which someone winds up gay are “still an open question,” said Clinton Anderson, the director of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Concerns Office of the American Psychological Association. “There is substantial evidence of various connections between genes, brain, hormones and sexual identity,” he said. “But those do not amount to a simple picture that A leads to B.”"

And on a more fundamental and humane level, Bruni appeals to fundamental goodness that resides within all of us by making an appeal to our basic humanity:

"I know that being in a same-sex relationship feels as central and natural to me as my loyalty to my father, my pride in my siblings’ accomplishments and my protectiveness of their children — all emotions that I didn’t exit the womb with but will not soon shake. And I know that I’m a saner, kinder person this way than trapped in a contrivance or a lie. Surely that’s not just to my advantage but to society’s, too."

Perhaps, I'm simply too much of an idealist to believe that pinning our hopes on this notion that somehow we have to explain our biological predisposition - We were born this way! - is a humiliating but necessary evil.

© 2012, Victor Hoff. All rights reserved. Menofcolor.blogs.com

 

 

 

Ride 'Em, Cowboy! (NSFW)

Every gay porn trope is dragged out into this one - dubbing, cheesy music - but one thing is undeniably true: the top is hung like a piece of earth moving equipment and the bottom knows how to take it.

Happy Saturday!

Homoeroticism In Straight Porn: Part IV (NSFW)

Meet Nacho and Hakan. They double-penetrate one very lucky woman and in the process find themselves in some compromising positions. (But neither seems to mind.)

Lower My Tuition (NSFW)

Among the memorable quotes?

"I just spent two hours outside and none of you faculty want to do anything and help lower tuition costs."

And...

"I've been jumpin' through some of your hoops and now you need to jump through mine"

Or

"You can't do anything to lower this tuition than I'm getting to get my fuckin' money's worth write now."

I hope whatever they do, they don't lower tuition costs.

© 2012, Victor Hoff. All rights reserved. Menofcolor.blogs.com

An Athlete's Body (NSFW)

Wow! In a word: PERFECT.

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When I Say Big... (NSFW)

I mean BIG!

How To Get Ostracized On You Tube In One, Easy Comment (An Update)

Here's the video which, by the way, unironically uses Shirley Bassey:

And here's the comment:

So what does this video tell us? It tells us that norms of masculinity are still reserved for white men. And that, I cannot support. The videographer, while talented, continues to perpetuate a false dichotomy that seems to have little relevance in an increasingly multicultural world.

The video was made by 'TennysonJMcKinney.' Can you guess who made the comment?

Update 01-27: As Beverly from Will and Grace might say: Well, well, well, well, well! 

Turns out our friend, Mr. McKinney, didn't take very kindly to any views that go against his construct of male sexuality. In fact, my friend deleted not only his response but a follow up response from'RemoSurfer.' Luckily, I don't have that short of a memory. In a rather, um, blunt response, the gentleman first wrote:

"@menofcolor Sorry for kicking you off your soapbox, but there is a 'manofcolor' in this video. Also Shirley Bassey is a "womanofcolor!" One LAST THING - while your "race-card shaded" opinion is well-stated, it is also INVALID!"

That was followed by this:

"@menofcolor WTF are talking about! This video is NOT ABOUT MASC/FEM men! It is about SEXUALITY! Sorry for kicking you off your soapbox, but there are quite a few "men of color" in this video. While your "race card-shaded" opinion is well-stated, it is also INVALID!" I AM NOT A RACIST! And for Chrissakes get that EFFIN BOULDER OF YOUR SHOULDER!"

I let his videos - and his responses - speak for themselves. There's too much...blockage going on. But I was heartened when 'RemoSurfer' added:

"@menofcolor this is the narrow-minded view of male beauty of tennysonjmckinney's and those who approve of this video. I say leave them to their narrow-mindedness to become the lonely old guys sittingin bar corners wanting ANYBODY of beauty of ANY age and color to talk to them. For their number of companions has done just like their skin - DRIED UP. THEN their view of beauty will be widened, but by that time, it will be TOO LITTLE TOO LATE."

Obviously this doesn't merit a response, but since 'terrysonjmckinney' deleted all these comments, I, with a record of it on my G2, felt it important as a historical record.

© 2012, Victor Hoff. All rights reserved. Menofcolor.blogs.com

What's It Like To Be Gay In Tajikistan? Why, It Sucks Quite Honestly

The story of being gay in Tajikistan (pronounced Tah-ZHEE-kee-stan) is the story of just about every other religiously dominated society in the world where ignorance, blind devotion to religion and fears of sexuality inform culturally norms.

Therapeutic "cures," ostracism, false marriages  and violence mar this mountainous landlocked country in Central Asian and for one 28-year-old man, Parviz, his story reads like the thousands, if not millions, of gay men who have lived similar lives:

"I got married at age 20 because my family put a lot of pressure on me...Soon after, I went to Russia to work at a market in Yekaterinburg. It was there that I first realized that I liked men and I began to go to gay bars and parks where men met...I cannot tell my family. I'm scared they would not accept me for being who I am and I would bring shame on them."

It's a story that could be told from anyone in Uganda, Saudi Arabia, Honduras, Turkey, Ghana, Bolivia, Singapore and, yes, even the United States.

Via: TheAtlantic.com

© 2012, Victor Hoff. All rights reserved. Menofcolor.blogs.com