Finally, Someone Has The Balls To Admit It's A "Choice" (And She Happens To Be A Woman)

I practically peed in my pants with excitement when I heard that actress Cynthia Nixon, Miranda Hobbes from HBO's smash hit Sex in The City, had announced recently to a gay-friendly audience that - gasp! - she chose to be gay. "I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better." And all I can say to that is: You go, girl!

For far too long, homosexuals have cowered in fear at the idea the one chooses one's sexual orientation would undo years of progress. After all, if, in fact, one's sexuality is a choice, then one can change it. And if one can change it, then one can be lead from the 'destructive,' 'abnormal,' 'sinful abomination' of  a lifestyle and join the rest of the mainstream heterosexual community.

The well-worn scientific argument, at is goes, is quite the opposite. Gay people do not make a choice. They can't help who they are. Ergo, they should be entitled to the full gambit of laws that provide equal participation in society. But by saying we were "born this way," we, as a group, come off sounding apologetic. It's as if we were trying to explain away a pathology and I think that's just plain wrong.

So what if it's a choice? Who cares? That shouldn't mean I have to be cut off from life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness just because it doesn't conform to your ideas of what's normal. The basis of law should not be predicated on some white heterosexual man's ideas about normalcy. Besides, heterosexuals have proven time and time again just how fucked up they are. It's ridiculous and I say three cheers for Cynthia Nixon!

(For more on Ms. Dixon and the science behind a woman's "sexual fluidity," check out self-proclaimed prude, Tracy Clark-Flory, who has written an extended piece on the subject over on Salon.com.)

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Comments

[Kieren]

I was born gay. It is not an apology for being different ... it is a statement of fact that needs to be recognized. Nixon later admitted, if reluctantly, that she was bisexual but didn't feel the word carried with it any respect from the community. No, this game of 'who cares if it's a choice or not' is a dangerous one to play. In a perfect world it shouldn't matter, but in this world it does matter. And if Nixon (and people like you) are willing to set back the LGBT movement to make some pseado-intellectual (and patently false [Nixon herself reluctantly admitted she was bi in a follow-up interview]}points, well then shame on you.